Internet Predators and Child Alters: 10 Ideas to Keep Them Safe


Kathy Broady:

mental_health_awardAnd…… (As the drum roll begins………)

My top nomination for the Mental Health Blogger Award goes to Rocking Complacency.

Rocking Complacency is absolutely jam packed full of excellent information for dissociative trauma survivors, with everything from genuine tips on internet safety, how to make excellent therapeutic progress, ways to address internal communication with DID systems, massive amounts of information about removing and undoing mind control / programming, helpful thoughts on recognizing and staying safe from predators, etc.

This blog is a MUST READ for anyone interested in Dissociative Identity Disorder, healing, and safety.

I simply cannot recommend it highly enough. RC gets full marks, 5 stars, 10/10. There is tons of information, and lots to read, so you are serious about your healing, Rocking Complacency will no doubt be a valuable resource for you.

Dig deep, give the words lots of thought, and learn, learn, learn. You’ll progress in your healing if you do, I promise!

Thank YOU, Rocking Complacency for sharing such incredible and difficult information. I have not met anyone anywhere who can say these tough things better than you. Well done!!

Warmly,
Kathy

Copyright © 2008-2015 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation

Originally posted on Rocking Complacency:

Another way that internet predators can infiltrate a dissociative survivor’s system is by befriending child alters.

These younger alters can be (although they are not always) more trusting than the adults, or they can be conditioned to unquestioning obedience, either of which makes them vulnerable if a predator wants to take advantage of them. Child alters also tend to have more difficulty discerning when someone is trying to trick them or manipulate them. With their child’s perspective, they can be influenced to believe things that would not get past an adult’s critical thinking skills.

Generally speaking (which is to say, true in many cases, but not necessarily true for every survivor or every child alter) – the child alters know vast amounts of information about the survivor’s dissociative system, information that can be very dangerous if it is given into unscrupulous hands. Some child alters also can wield immense power…

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Yep, We All Love Our Dogs


You know it's been a rough day when even your ears are tired....

You know it’s been a rough day when even your ears are tired….

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Hello Everyone,

It was National Dog Day this week, so there’s no reason to miss a chance to talk about our wonderful furry friends.

I’m going to come right out and say it.  Yes, I’m one of those people who often likes dogs more than people.  I definitely have those moments, and my dogs have been massively important to me.  I’m guessing that many of you can relate with that.

As you can see, my younger puppy, Joe Bob, in the picture above, is having some trouble getting his ears to stand up like they are supposed to.  That’s ok though.  I love him regardless.

My older puppy, Pinky, has wonderful big pink “donkey ears”, which are gloriously fun, but she has her own imperfections too, of course.

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Pinky, the fabulous tree climbing extraordinaire!

Pinky, the fabulous tree climbing extraordinaire!

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Pinky, as beautiful as she is, was born with a broken bendy tail.  Instead of curling upwards, Pinky’s tail has a 90 degree bend in it, making the last half of her tail point down.  You can see it here, in the picture below where Pinky is having a good game of chase with Joe Bob.

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Run, Joe, run! Here comes Pinky!

Run, Joe, run! Here comes Pinky!

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My two silver kelpies are great buddies.  They play together all the time.  Watching them play together brings a smile to my heart and joy to my day.  It doesn’t matter to me that they each have imperfections.  They are precious, loyal, dedicated, protective and loads of fun.  That’s what matters to me.

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Pinky and Joe Bob playing, as per usual. You can see the difference in their tails. :)

Pinky and Joe Bob playing, as per usual. You can see the difference in their tails. :)

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Thank goodness for dogs.  They truly make life beautiful, even on the darkest of days.

I hope you all had a great play day with your dogs on National Dog Day.

  • Where did you go?
  • What did you do?
  • What unique quality does your dog have?
  • What does your dog mean to you?
  • How does your dog make your life better?

Please feel free to share how significant your dog is to you.  I guarantee, you’ll be understood.

Wishing many happy dog days to you!

Warmly,

Kathy

Copyright © 2008-2015 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation

Mental Health Blogger Award nomination.


Kathy Broady:

Thank you, Lucky Otter, for nominating Discussing Dissociation for this Mental Health Blogger Award. That’s a great honor, and I definitely appreciate your reading here, and encouraging others to do the same.
With much gratitude,
Kathy

Originally posted on Lucky Otter's Haven:

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I’m humbled and proud to announce that Tessa from Tessa Can Do it has nominated this blog for the Mental Health Blogger Award. This award recognizes blogs that both promote mental health awareness and attempt to reduce the stigma associated with mental disorders.

Thank you so much for the honor, Tessa!

So I’m paying it forward by nominating five blogs I think deserve this award too. Nominees should do the following if they wish to accept the award:

The Rules:

1. Place this award somewhere on your website.

2. Nominate five bloggers who promote Mental Health awareness to receive this award.

3. Give reasons for your nominations.

My Nominations:

1. BPD Transformation has a very informative and well researched blog about Borderline personality disorder (BPD) and believes the negative “Cluster B” stigma associated with BPD can be eliminated by focusing on treating its symptoms over the medical model of misleading…

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Ever Been in a Mood?


Ever been in a mood?

Ever been in a mood?

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Have you ever been in a mood?

Sometimes it’s hard to know which mood is what.

For the picture above, what mood do you see?  Here are some of the options I see:

  • Bored
  • Irritated
  • Frustrated
  • Disappointed
  • Sadness

 

What about this mood? What moods do you see in the pictures below?

Painting by Mugdh Setia

Painting by Mugdh Setia, called Mixed EMOtions

What feelings do you see here?

What feelings do you see here?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Do you see ……. ?

  • Confusion
  • Interest
  • Shock
  • Fear
  • Worry
  • Contentment
  • Anger
  • Pain
  • Sadness

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There are so many different feelings, and so many can happen at the same time.  It’s hard to sort it all out, especially when different insiders contain different feelings, and are all present at the same time.  What a big mix of mixed feelings is that??!!

How many dissociative trauma survivors can relate to how this feels?

 A Digital Collage Depicting Mixed Emotions I Had by Mariah Llanes


A Digital Collage Depicting Mixed Emotions I Had, by Mariah Llanes

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I don’t know if this picture was created by a dissociative survivor or not, but I sure do see an excellent representation of internal feelings and inside people.  I think I’ll wait and make more comments on this picture in a separate, dedicated blog post.  There’s just so much that can be said about this collage!  It’s fantastic!

Anyway…. Just wondering how you feel today.

Warmly,

Kathy

 

Copyright © 2008-2015 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation

 

Ten Benefits of Being Multiple


Kathy Broady:

Joys of Being Multiple

With so much pressure out in the therapeutic world to integrate, my question back to that, is why??

Dissociative trauma survivors need healing from all the wounding, and safety from any further abuse, yes, absolutely of course.  And some blending will occur naturally with internal / external safety, with good communication, and with excellent internal team work.

But what’s wrong with experiencing a safe and happy life as a multiple?  I can see lots of beauty in being multiple.  Just saying!

  • What do you enjoy about your multiplicity?
  • What strengths do you have?
  • How has multiplicity enhanced your life?
  • What qualities of being a multiple would you want to keep, and never lose?

Tossing out something to think about.

Warmly,

Kathy

Copyright © 2008-2015 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation

Originally posted on Discussing Dissociation:

You are Beautiful

In the typical process of trauma therapy, your therapist and the dissociative trauma survivor will spend a great deal of time talking about how difficult it is to be multiple — and it is difficult, no doubt about it.  For the typical multiple, there were years and years of pain and horror and abuse requiring the need to split over and over into a number of different personalities just to survive the unthinkable.

But the point of this blog is to talk about what an outsider / singleton sees as the benefits of being multiple and having Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID/MPD).  Yes, there really are some advantages to being split!

I see the following benefits in multiplicity:

  • Being able to do more than one thing at the same time.  Talk about having the ability to multi-task!  I’ve known situations were one personality can be talking comfortably on the phone while…

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What if you don’t like being Multiple?


Kathy Broady:

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Hi everyone,
I selected this article to re-blog because it already has 46 comments connected to it, and links to an article about the benefits of being multiple with 59 comments. That tells me y’all have a lot to say about these topics, and I’m certainly interested in hearing more.

I’m not multiple, so I don’t really have a say. I’m looking forward to hearing from those of you that know all about it.
Your thoughts and comments are welcome.

Warmly,
Kathy

Copyright © 2008-2015 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation

Originally posted on Discussing Dissociation:

Don't Like Being Multiple

This week, the readers here have posted a wide variety of reactions to the idea that being multiple could have benefits.  If you haven’t yet read all the comments on that blog, please do so.  They are very interesting.

When people have DID/MPD, they have experienced life as a multiple since their childhood.  It is their norm – basically the only way of life they know.  Multiples typically have not experienced life any other way other than being multiple, even if they didn’t realize they were as split as they are.  Sure, one or two of the host personalities may not have a strong personal connection to what it’s like to be multiple, and many of them can deny the existence of the internal others to some degree, but the internal system as a whole would have been there for nearly your whole life.

And frankly, many DID’ers that…

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My Pals, Pinky and Joe Bob


Here are my two dogs, Pinky in the back, and funny floppy Joe in the front.

Here are my two dogs, Pinky in the back, and funny floppy Joe in the front.

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Have you ever seen a silver kelpie?

Aren’t they pretty?

These two ragamuffins have plenty of stories to share.  In this picture, Pinky is 3 yrs old, and little Joe — also known Joe Bob, Joe Man, Joe Dirt, Little Man, and so forth — is about 4 months old.  And talk about being full of beans!

Little Joe is still learning how to have giant standy uppy kelpie ears.  He’s got ear flops going every which way.  I’ll show you more of his unique floppy ear styles later. :)

So if you like puppy stories, I have a few to share!

Warmly,

Kathy

Copyright © 2008-2015 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation

Developing Internal Communication – Starting with the Basics


Kathy Broady:

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Are you working with your internal system? Need some ideas for where to start? Once you get the basics of good communication figured out, it won’t be so daunting to reach the harder topics.

Start simple. First, just get a general idea of who is there, what they do, and what kinds of things they know. Build a friendly rapport first. You’ll need some version of relationship with them before you can manage the tougher stuff.

I bet there is someone in your system you’ve never yet spoken with. Try these ideas as you say hello to them.

I wish you the best in your healing journey.

Warmly,

Kathy

Copyright © 2008-2015 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation

Originally posted on Discussing Dissociation:

Good Communication Skills

There are a variety of ways to develop basic, effective skills in internal communication with your dissociative system.  Most of these skills are very similar, even the same, as the communication skills used with real people in the everyday world.  There is no fancy trick to learning to talk to your inside people.  Everyone can do this.

Have you spoken to people in your everyday world?   I’m sure that every one of you has spoken to outside people before.  If you can speak to real people and develop ongoing relationships with them, you can certainly develop the ability to communicate and build relationships with your insiders.

Don’t panic — I completely understand that many people with Dissociative Identity Disorder have difficulties with social situations and social relationships.  I am fully aware that speaking with “real people” can be intimidating, challenging, difficult, disastrous, etc.

Internal Communication

Here’s the good news.  In some ways…

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Internal Communication – The Core of Treatment for Dissociative Identity Disorder, part 1


Kathy Broady:

Hi Everyone,
I still believe that developing excellent internal communication and effective team work are critical elements for working with Dissociative Identity Disorder. Here’s a few ideas to encourage you all to start talking with your insiders.
Warmly,
Kathy

Originally posted on Discussing Dissociation:

Photo Source: Pixabay Photo Source: Pixabay

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I ended my last post with this paragraph:

Focus first on relationship building with your parts.  Get to know them.  Talk to them.  Learn their names.  Overcome your fears of who they are.  Appreciate their strengths.  Develop friendships with them.  I guarantee that your overall stability will greatly improve as you are more connected with your internal system on a genuinely friendly, caring basis.


In my opinion, developing good internal communication is the core of the treatment work for Dissociative Identity Disorder.  If you cannot or do not talk well with your other internal parts, you will not be able to complete your healing work effectively, thoroughly or sufficiently.

Imagine going to your place of employment and not being able to speak with any of your co-workers.  How well would businesses work with that approach?  Have you ever been to a big department store?  Imagine if…

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Better Internet Soon!


Introducing Little Joe, also known by many other names...... More to come about this cute little guy in posts to come.

Introducing Little Joe, also known by many other names…… More to come about this cute little guy in posts to come.

Hey Everyone,

Hi , hi, and hi!

Quick note.  I’m in the process of moving to a new place which will have better internet.  Once all that happens, I will get to be much more active again.  I have spent the last six months having to drive 30 minutes, each way, to get internet reception while sitting in my car!  ARGH!!!  Not cool!!!  But thankfully, I’m on my way back to civilization and blogging will be much simpler.

Hold tight, please keep reading, and know that I am on my way back to writing more soon.

My apologies for all the delays…..

Warmly,

Kathy