Every survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA) that I know has a lot of enormously difficult days when they struggle desperately with feeling bad, feeling lousy, feeling at fault, feeling pain. Those struggles can last for years. Healing does come, but on those difficult days, remember what is true.
When the hard days come, it might be hard to remember….
- It was not ok that anyone touched your body in ways that hurt you.
- When you were young, it was never your fault that your body was sexually assaulted. You were not responsible. You are not to blame.
- There is nothing that any child can do, ever, that would make that child deserve sexual abuse, including you.
- ANY adult that touches a child in sexual ways is completely inappropriate and wrong to do so.
- Instead of hating and hurting yourself for what others did to you, treat your wounded heart, soul, and body with kindness, gentleness, and respect.
- No matter what shape or size or color or height or weight of your body, no one ever had the right to sexually engage you as a child.
- You are not a bad person even if bad things happened to you when you were young. You were not a bad baby. You were not a bad child. You are not bad. You were innocent.
- You are not a bad person even if adults forced themselves upon you when you were a child. What they did was bad. What you did was endure the pain.
- The bad you feel belongs to the adults who did sexual crimes to you. You are not the bad one. They are the criminals.
- You were a precious, beautiful child. Even if ugly yucky things happened to you, you are beautiful. Then, and now.
Don’t believe the ugly garbage that your abusers said to you.
Believe in yourself instead.
You were innocent, and you are beautiful.
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