Mothers and Mother’s Day for Trauma Survivors


Kathy Broady:

Thoughts on Mother’s Day Weekend….

Originally posted on Discussing Dissociation:

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These two beautiful girls have a wonderful mother. But the readers of this blog might relate to the split emotions shown in this picture.

These two beautiful girls have a wonderful mother. But the readers of this blog might relate to the split emotions shown in this picture.

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For dissociative trauma survivors, Mother’s Day is often a painful time.

For survivors with dissociative identity disorder, mother issues are usually complex and difficult to sort out.  Momma-trauma comes in a variety of forms.

For some survivors, their mothers were simply not there to protect them from the violent abuse of the father or other sadistic family members.  These mothers were away at work, or away at the hospital, or too ill to tend properly to their children, or divorced from the fathers and living in separate homes, etc.  Many of these mothers love their kids dearly, but still were unable to protect their children from trauma and abuse.  Most of these mothers are not to blame for the abuse – many of them…

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Baby Pies — A Bird Story


Kathy Broady:

Here’s something, just for fun…. :)

And, this little story has received lots of good votes from other readers, so let’s bring it up today, just to remember something that is warm for the heart.

Warmly,
Kathy

 

Copyright © 2008-2014 Kathy Broady and Discussing Dissociation

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I do have some short little stories I would like to share that are on the fun side.

Animals have always been very important to me, and for most years of my life, I have had a variety of pets – lots of cats, dogs, horses – and when I was little I had a pet raccoon called Petunia, a pet pig called Snorkie, and a pet calf called Grassyhopper.  I would be writing for a very long time if I started through the list of critters that have been my best friends through all the years!

Sweet Stinky Sinky Spot :)

Sweet Stinky Sinky Spot :)

This year I made some brand new critter-buddies — I met a tiding of magpies.  (Tiding… hmmm, that’s a very odd word.  It reminds me of tidy, and believe me, magpies are not exactly tidy!!!)  Magpies – to me – are a group of birds that…

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Easter Weekend: Sorting through the Layers Within


Kathy Broady:

Hello everyone,
Maybe some of you are triggered by finding Easter eggs. Here is an Easter related post, but we are looking for caterpillars instead.
Do your little ones see the funny caterpillars??
Have fun when you can. :)
Warmly,
Kathy

Copyright © 2008-2014 Kathy Broady and Discussing Dissociation

Originally posted on Discussing Dissociation:

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Hello Everyone,

It’s the Easter weekend — a complicated and conflictual weekend for most dissociative trauma survivors. So many layers of your inside levels will be awakened, aware, involved, wondering, waiting, going, sitting, thinking, watching, feeling, remembering, refusing, believing, fighting, crying, calling, hiding, etc. Its a time of being pulled in dozens of different directions all at once.

Lots of headaches, that’s what that means.
And lots of pain. Ouch, ouch, ouch.

So yes… I am thinking of you all, and wishing peace for you. I know it’s difficult. Really difficult.

The Easter season is typically overloaded with the triggers, external pulls, family complications, and spiritual battles. The inside battle within your system may be raging at full intensity.

As best you can, remember to sit with each other, and learn what you can about the others that you see nearby. What struggles are they having? What thoughts are in…

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Difficult Holiday Times


Kathy Broady:

For those of you with dissociative internal system people,

Remember to talk with your insiders.
They already know what happened. They were there.

They saw it, they felt it.
They can explain what’s bothering you…..

Be brave.
Listen to them……
Kathy

Copyright © 2008-2014 Kathy Broady and Discussing Dissociation

Originally posted on Discussing Dissociation:

Struggling.... With the pulls of dark, painful, foggy memories....

Struggling…. With the pulls of dark, painful, foggy memories….

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For many dissociative trauma survivors, various holidays and times of year are more difficult than other days.  Some survivors may know they typically have a difficult time at the change of seasons, or when Easter-time comes, for example, but they may not have the memories or internal information to understand why they consistently have a difficult time at that time of year.

  • Are you struggling more now that Easter is here?
  • Does Good Friday have any specific meaning for you?
  • Does Passover have specific meaning for you?
  • Do you consistently have trouble with functioning at this time of year?
  • Do you remember anything that would make this hard time make sense?

When survivors with DID/MPD are sitting on unprocessed memories and their system is separated by strong dissociative walls, the host of the system may have absolutely no awareness of…

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This is Easter Weekend


Kathy Broady:

Hello Everyone,
It’s a holiday weekend again, and I wanted you to know I was thinking of you.
Please stay safe.

Warmly,

Kathy

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Copyright © 2008-2014 Kathy Broady and Discussing Dissociation

Originally posted on Discussing Dissociation:

Happy Easter Eggs

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Hi Everyone,

This is Easter weekend.

For DID trauma survivors with a ritual abuse (RA) background, this is a very difficult weekend, full of difficult memories, painful emotions, and system conflicts.

*** I’m going to speak of some of the horrors of ritual abuse – here is your trigger warning – for those of you that need one of those. ***

With ritual abuse, anything that represented something positive in the Christian faith would have been turned into something dangerous and harmful in the dark worlds.  The good would have been twisted into evil.  The light would have been made dark.  Distortions, perversions, confusion, pain, violence, and chaos would have been celebrated.

Opposites are taught – white becomes black.  The day-world church is very distinctly different and opposite from the night-world church.

Children should never ever be exposed to the level of sadistic violence that occurs in ritualistic ceremonies. …

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What Would Your Perfect Treatment Plan Look Like?


Kathy Broady:

Hello Everyone,

I’ve been continuing to add links to the List of All Articles page, and while doing so, I came across this article written in 2010.

It has 50 wonderful comments from the readers of this blog (wow! that’s excellent!), and I decided to bring this topic back up to view.

  • What do you think?
  • Do you agree or disagree with the comments presented?
  • Do you have your own comment to add?
  • What would the perfect treatment plan look like for you?

I look forward to hearing your good ideas. and if you like what you see, please be sure to show these ideas to your therapist.

Warmly,
Kathy

Copyright © 2008-2014 Kathy Broady and Discussing Dissociation

 

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In this blog article, I’d like to hear your opinion.

It’s very clear that the mental health professionals out in the world do not agree on treatment goals for dissociative identity disorder (DID / MPD).  For that matter, the mental health professionals of the world do not even agree that dissociative identity disorder is a real and legitimate diagnosis, let alone agree on how to best work with trauma survivors with dissociative issues.

The disparity of perspectives and lack of education, training, and knowledge about dissociative disorders means that therapists take all kinds of different tactics in their approaches.  Obviously, some of these approaches are more effective than others.

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After reading the hundreds of comments on the different articles on this blog, it is very clear that many dissociative survivors are not feeling completely satisfied with their healing process.  There are various limitations and obstacles in the way…

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The Changing of the Seasons


Kathy Broady:

This article, originally written in 2010, still has important information to remember today, considering we are back to another change of season again. Can you feel or recognize any of these changes happening in your internal system this week?

Copyright © 2008-2014 Kathy Broady and Discussing Dissociation

Originally posted on Discussing Dissociation:

brrrr...... cold, cold, cold weather during Winter....

brrrr…… cold, cold, cold weather during Winter….

This weekend is another season change.

For those of us in the Northern Hemisphere, it will be the first day of spring.

The first day of spring, the first day of summer, the first day of autumn, and the first day of winter are all significant and difficult days for many trauma survivors with dissociative identity disorder (DID / MPD).

What a pretty Spring garden...

What a pretty Spring garden…

Because these dates are a little obscure, and the reasons for the trouble may not be obvious, many DID survivors may not understand why they have difficulties on these dates.  I’m not going to go into great detail for why these dates are difficult, I just want to state that they often are.

Please check with your therapist, especially if you find yourself struggling this weekend.   Have you noticed any of the following symptoms:

  • Stronger, more frequent pulls…

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