More Thoughts about Self Injury — Kathy’s Video comments, Self Injury2


Flower Bush with Bees

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Self injury….. A frequent and common topic for dissociative trauma survivors.

Have you been struggling with thoughts of self harm?

Do you know why you need to self harm?

In this video, Self Injury 2, I ask lots of questions about self injury — questions you are meant to ask yourself.  Genuine questions to think about, because if you can seriously start to answer these questions, you will get some much-needed insight into your patterns of self injury.

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Self Injury 2, by Kathy from Discussing Dissociation

 

Self Injury 2, by Kathy from Discussing Dissociation

 

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A Bee in a Bush .

Do you see the bees?

There were hundreds of them in that bush, all buzzing around!

Why am I sitting so close to all those bees in the video?

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My wish for you is that you will be able to free yourself from the patterns and expectations of ongoing self-injury.

You have been hurt enough already.

You really, really don’t have to continue hurting yourself or your insiders.

It’s ok to feel, and it’s very very ok to be safe from more harm.

Be kind, gentle, and comforting to yourself instead.

Try self soothing, instead of self injury.

Stop the abuse, even the self-inflicted abuse.

 

I wish you the best in your healing journey.

Warmly,

Kathy

Copyright © 2008-2015 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation

Happy New Year 2015


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Happy New Year Wishes

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Snoopy's Happy New Year

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Unlimited Potential

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Happy NewYear 2015

 

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Happy New Year, everyone!

I wish you a year filled with ever-growing peace, lots of comfort, a daily dose of kindness, and moments of beauty.

Warmly,

Kathy

Copyright © 2008-2015 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation

 

 

 

 

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Compulsive Hoarding and Dissociative Disorders


Kathy Broady:

It’s the end of the year, and many of us are thinking about goals for the New Year. “Cleaning house” is often on that list.
This article about hoarding was once one of the top viewed articles here at Discussing Dissociation — for months and months, it was the top viewed article in 2009 – 2010, surprisingly enough. I’ll send it through again, and see what the viewers of 2014 – 2015 think. Your comments are welcomed, of course!
And for those of you struggling with compulsive hoarding, please know there are people who understand and can help. You’re not alone.
I wish you all the best in your healing journeys.
Warmly,
Kathy

Originally posted on Discussing Dissociation:

Compulsive Hoarding is a cluttery mess!!

What makes this happen?

Have you seen homes that look like this?

Does your home look like this?

Compulsive hoarding, or disposophobia, is a psychiatric condition that affects millions of people.

Compulsive hoarding is an obsessive need to acquire and keep possessions, even if these items have little value, are unsanitary, or broken, or unusable.  Numerous items are kept and not discarded.  Instead of using the items already owned, or looking for items that are lost in the piles, new items are acquired repeatedly to the point that the clutter creates significant dysfunction in a variety of areas of the person’s life.

Compulsive hoarding is far more complex than it first appears.  It is connected to a variety of disorganized chaotic behavioral patterns and disorganized thinking patterns.  It typically occurs in combination with other psychiatric issues, such as depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder…

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Addressing Depression in Trauma Disorders


Kathy Broady:

Depression often hits hard around the holiday season.
How are you feeling? Is depression snuggling up to you??
This article can give you lots of things to think about …
I hope you feel better soon.
Warmly,
Kathy

Originally posted on Discussing Dissociation:

Depression and Sadness

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It is no secret that trauma survivors get depressed, and depression is the most commonly known and experienced mental health disorder.

Typical depression symptoms include:

  • Suicidal thoughts, recurring death thoughts, death wishes
  • Suicidal behavior and suicide attempts
  • Self destructive behavior, self injury, self harm
  • Feelings of worthlessness, guilt, self hatred, or not deserving to live
  • Loss of energy, fatigue, excessive sleeping
  • Little or no interest or pleasure in anything or anybody
  • Inability to think, or to concentrate, or to make decisions
  • Significant but unintentional changes in weight loss or weight gain
  • Significant but unintentional changes in appetite
  • For children, not making normal and expected weight gains and physical growth

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Depression Word Collage

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For trauma survivors, depression can have layered meanings beyond the typical medical symptoms.

Repeated patterned depressions can be very much related to a specific or recurring trauma, or to a significant loss.  For dissociative survivors with DID/MPD, the…

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Understanding Child Parts in the Dissociative System


Kathy Broady:

Knowing how to work with your child parts is crucial to healing when you are dissociative.
Do you understand who your inside child parts are?
Why are they there?
What are you supposed to do with them?
Read on…..

Originally posted on Discussing Dissociation:

Beautiful Children

Child parts come in all shapes and sizes – small, tall, skinny, short, chunky, pristine, messy, filthy, princess-like, raggedy, male, female, quiet, noisy, screaming, crying, silent, confused, dazed, sleepy, busy, playful, happy, sad, angry, fearful, bouncing, babyish, stiff, awkward, hurting, numb.

As different as they are, they all have similar qualities.   They are typically some of the oldest, most knowledgeable members of your system.

But as the youngest parts, how can they be the oldest?

Let me explain.

For example, if you split off a 5-year-old child part when you (and the body) were a literal age 5, and you are now age 35, that child part has been around for 30 years.  Even though that little one might not have aged during that time, they may very well have seen or participated in many of your life’s events over the past 30 years.  Being around for 30 years means…

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Thinking Ahead — Preparation for Working with your Child Parts


Kathy Broady:

Hello Everyone,
Are your inside kids running around, being particularly visible during the holiday season?
While your little ones are nearby, have a little think about how you can use this time to advance their healing.
What are you doing with your kids?
Here are some ideas to consider.
Warmly,
Kathy
Copyright © 2008-2014 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation

Originally posted on Discussing Dissociation:

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As I continue to write posts about working with child parts, I want to encourage you to think about this topic as well.   Read the following questions, and be honest with yourself – think about them.  Journal about them, and make these questions the topics of discussion in your internal meetings.  Try the acronym exercises if you need a starting place.

Children who Survived

  • What are your beliefs about child parts?  Who are they?  What are they? Why do you have child parts?
  • What are your healing and therapy goals for working with your child parts?
  • Do you want your child parts to grow older?  Or are you happy to incorporate them into your life at whatever age they are?
  • Would you feel better if your child parts grew up?  What would you lose if they got older?  What would you gain?
  • Do you remember the same things the child parts remember? …

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Merry Christmas – or is it Merry for Everyone?


Kathy Broady:

I do understand that the holiday season isn’t so happy for everyone….
Do you feel like the sad little pug or the ol’ grumpy cat shown in this article? Lots of folks do…..
If so, here’s a blog remembering you.
Warmly,
Kathy

Originally posted on Discussing Dissociation:

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Sometimes Christmas can be a time full of exploring.

And seeing wonderment in the eyes of children, and enjoying new sights and sounds. Christmas can be about playing, smiling, carefree, and innocence.

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Sometimes Christmas isn’t so fun….

It can be a sad time. A lonely time.  A missing people you love time.

It’s not the Happy Christmas, Merry Christmas kind of time.

It’s even more lonely and more terrible to be having a sad day when “everyone else in the world” is having a fun-filled, wonderful day (or so they say, anyway….).

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Sometimes Christmas can bring out all kinds of grumpy, grouchy and angry feelings.  Family conflict, stress, everyday life troubles, trauma, all kinds of things can happen to turn our Happy Holiday season into something really not so good at all.

It’s worse than Bah Humbug…. Christmas for these folks is genuinely difficult, and…

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What is Christmas Without Music?


Charlie Brown Christmas Music

Music is a must in life.

And Christmas is just not Christmas without music.  Not for me anyway.

Music can soothe the soul like nothing else. It can create joy and smiles when the heart is heavy.  It can create a spot of hope, even in the darkest moments. Music reaches deep within where nothing else can touch.

With that in mind, I’ve decided to share some of my most favorite Christmas carols with you today — songs that I have treasured since my childhood.  Maybe hearing some of my favorite music will inspire you to find the music that helps your heart and souls to feel warm.

Let’s start with this one. The music and harmonies are just so incredibly beautiful.  The children’s cartoon Christmas Special of “The Little Drummer Boy” was my favorite every year.  Did you see it?  It was this song that taught me that music can be a very powerful gift.

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qJ_MGWio-vc

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I cannot remember ever having a Christmas season without singing “The First Noel”.  It had to be on the list.

Plus I have a funny memory relating to this song.  We had window banners that my mom would put up every year.  There were four fuzzy green felt banners, one for each letter of the word Noel.  I thought they were wonderful, and I loved the golden fringes at the bottom of each banner.  They were a picture of a something beautiful for me.

Our first year of living in Canada, we were having a great day putting up our Christmas decorations. It was a very white and snowy Christmas that year!  We were so proud of our little decorated house!

My dad came home, later that afternoon, and had a funny look on his face as he walked through the door.  I was sooo proud of our decorations, I didn’t expect that look.  He kept chuckling, and giggling, and chuckling some more.  Finally he asked my mom about what kind of weird message was she sending out to the world.  We all looked at him with confusion. It was the Christmas story after all.  What was funny about that?

He took us outside to see what he found so funny.

“Who’s Leon?” He asked, giggling again.

Sure enough, our beautiful fuzzy green and gold Noel window banners had been hung backwards.  We were wishing everyone a Happy Leon, not a Christmas Noel!

I laughed and laughed and laughed.  I didn’t know any Leon’s, but I still wished them a very Merry Christmas.  That year, and every year since. :)

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cm6yI1OrbzM

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** Please note…. While some Christmas scenes can be painfully triggering to dissociative trauma survivors, please note that no one gets hurt in this video.  These children are finding the beauty in Christmas.  They are building nice memories.

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Another life long favorite of mine is “What Child is This”.  I have always found the music and melody of this song to be so so so pretty.  It reaches deep into my heart. Please have a listen to this incredible version of an already beautiful song.

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1A3i0GATnRI

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I hope my musical walk down memory lane helps to inspire you to let music bring peace and joy to your heart and soul this holiday season.

Warmly,

Kathy

Copyright © 2008-2014 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation